It is truly a gift to be a chosen one, with the responsibility of the nurturer/care giver, but it can also get very frustrating!
Everyone is a nurturer in some form, to some degree, but others just naturally gravitate toward that role. And then some are chosen to be there for children requiring much more attention than others. When it comes to children with autism, you know exactly what I am talking about. It seems like everything we do requires soooo much time-consuming effort – and often with little or no reward (so it seems).
Hang in there – there are rewards – like the story of the little boy waving (to his mom – but not really) on the bus in the “Chicken Soup: Special Needs” issue. Sometimes, we are so wrapped up in taking care of others, we often lose sight of caring care of ourselves! It is important to take time for yourself and rejuvenate. Don’t feel guilty about it either! I learned many years ago that if I don’t take care of myself, I won’t be in shape mentally or physically to take care of others. When we nurture others in our care, we can teach them how to care for themselves to the best of their own ability. A thriving state of mind, body, and spirit is most conducive to providing this kind of quality care, that will someday foster an adult that is confident, successful and most of all, happy.