“The truth will set you free!”
It is refreshing to know that the truth is what it is…whether we like it or not.
Have you seen the movie “Liar, Liar”?
Jim Carrey plays a fast track lawyer who continually breaks promises…especially to his wife and young son. Knowing that Dad (Carrey) is going to miss a birthday party is the last straw. Before blowing out the candles, the sad son, wishes that his Dad could never lie again.
Of course, due to movie magic, that wish comes true and the film continues with hilarious scenes of Carrey’s character being unable to lie, day or night, no matter what the situation.
He literally lost the mental filter through which we all have spoken little white lies.
Forget about being politically correct…that’s out the window.
Whatever the truth was, he spoke it.
In the real world, children with autism usually see things in the light of truth too.
They may say “Why are you so fat?” Or “Gee, I really don’t like that Christmas present.”
When Jonathan, my son with autism, was in the first grade he was just learning how to play. He did not like to go outside to play, probably because of the social challenges on the playground.
One day he decided to tell his teacher, Mrs. Shincaryk, that he was too sick to go outside to play because he had a tummy ache. Her aid, Caraly, went to Jonathan when she heard this news, and said “Johnny, a birdie told me that you don’t want to go outside to play because you have a tummy ache. Is this true?”
Jonathan replied “What? I didn’t know Mrs. Shincaryk had feathers. It’s really cool though. It must be really cool to be able to flap feathers.”
Telling the truth is admirable. We even tell our children to “always” tell the truth.
As you can see, things get complicated when the truth does not mesh well with the social reality of interacting with others on a daily basis.
How has the truth effected your relations with an autistic person?
Like my son Jonathan, have you ever tried telling the whole truth as often as possible? What happened?
What was the result when a special needs person, or yourself for that matter, told the whole truth and nothing but the truth with less than stellar timing?
Share your story with me now by leaving your comment below.
As always, I look forward to hearing from you.
Mother, Wife, Author, Founder & CEO of AutismToday.com
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