Terrible Tantrums Tamed with Early Intervention Program

Looks can be deceiving.

It’s not fair, I’ve been stared at, demeaned and told to “Control my child” over the years.

People are quick to make assumptions and quick to judge all within a few seconds.

When the screaming tantrums were at their worst I had to ignore those in public that might have thought Jonathan was abused. In fact, just the opposite was true. Our family has gone to great lengths to enable understanding, growth and love to thrive while managing the disability of our sons.

There is only so much a Mother can do to keep an autistic child “under control.”

Still, I have to admit, it hurt to be judged prejudicially.

The problem is when you have a normal looking child, people assume they are normal and that the child’s outbursts must be a sign of bad parenting or some sort of abuse.

When Jonathan began early intervention, we faced many challenges.

Jonathan would have terrible temper tantrums. He would drop to the ground screaming and kicking.  At the time, I didn’t know how to deal with this behavior.

While he was in the fourth grade Jonathan’s aide told me of a similar situation where Jonathan had a tantrum on the ground.  This time he was kicking his arms and legs around silently.  His aide ignored him.

Jonathan, shouted “Mrs. Lorenz, didn’t you see that? I was very angry and I’m still angry.”

She continued to ignore him. She called his bluff so to speak.

That was the last temper tantrum he’s had since.

The solution was as simple as giving Jonathan a choice.

In the store he could either push the cart, or get into it.  At school they gave him similar guidance with favorable outcomes.

Giving a choice worked like a charm!

All solutions have pros and cons. Follow up is critical for success. You must nip any residual “uprisings” appropriately.

For instance, at school, there was a scrawling on the bathroom wall that said “Mrs. Lorenz is unfair to Jonathan” after his tempers subsided.

Gee, wonder who wrote that?

What rebellious behavior has your special needs loved one displayed?

How have you managed this behavior?

What worked the best to enable a more peaceful future?

Share your story now, leave a comment below.

Looking forward to your story!

Karen Simmons
Mother, Wife, Author, Founder & CEO of AutismToday.com

P.S. Try these tips, strategies, and tools to help cope with temper tantrums.

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  • Gary says:

    Kyle, a friend of mine, has a whole website devoted to this: His story sounds familiar to yours.

  • Mother of child with ADHD and LDs says:

    My son has been having tantrums since he was 1.5 years old. He is now 10. He continues to have tantrums that escalate to abusive behavior. We have been through doctors, specialists, counsellors and the most hurtful experience asides for our concern for our son is people’s judgement. He too looks perfectly normal on the outside. I am happy there is more awareness on these types of disAbilities in children, but the public awareness of the seriousness and struggles of a children with ADHD has a long way to go. The book I recommend is Survival strategies for parenting your ADD child. Dealing with Obsessions, Compulsions, Depression, Explosive Behaviour & Rage. G. Lynn, M.A. C.M.H.C.

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