Have you thought of your own mortality lately?
How have you dealt with the death of a friend, family member or co-worker?
Sometimes life throws us a curve ball that must be dealt with on the spot.
When I was at an attitudinal healing seminar in California one year I returned home to find out that Jonathan’s best friend in first grade was tragically killed by a truck.
This was our first real experience with the concept of death.
He decided to take his two younger brothers who were 5 and 3 at the time with a friend to the graveyard, crossing a busy highway. We might have had to pray for all of them, though, if they’d been hit by a car!
They were looking for Michael’s grave.
Jonathan said “I wish I could have unlimited lives so I could add a life for Michael.” Even though Jonathan doesn’t usually show his emotions, I know he missed his friend terribly.
Jonathan knows I “came back” after a birthing that had significant complications.
Because of that, I asked him once if he thought he could come back to life if he died to see if he understood death. Jonathan said “no,…not unless I had…oh, so there is a way to come back to life, eh?
Then he remembered. He said “Mom, you always say that you came back to life!”
This was yet another “curve ball” suddenly thrown at me as a Mom.
Without knowing what being autistic is all about you may be surprised how reality, specifically safety issues, can be skewed for special needs individuals.
Although it was nice to hear Jonathan was so willing to give one of his “unlimited lives” we had to chat about the concept of death and its permanency.
As in many tragedies in life a positive moment came from the death of Jonathan’s friend. Although difficult for Jonathan to struggle with this event it clearly illustrated to him that once in the grave we aren’t climbing out to be with friends no matter how many lives we wish we had in reserve.
Further, Jonathan pondered how important it is to enjoy life while it lasts no matter our station in life…disabled or not.
Soon after my conversation with Jonathan I was fortunate for that “curve ball” and all it allowed both of us to learn about each other.
What difficult life concepts have you encountered with special needs people?
How did you deal with the big questions and mysteries of life when caught by surprise?
Share your milestone conversations and moments with a special needs person. Share your story by leaving your comment below.
As always, I look forward to hearing from you.
Mother, Wife, Author, Founder & CEO of AutismToday.com
P.S. Here are tips and strategies you’ll need to help a special need person understand and cope with life concepts such as death.
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