By: Rizza Barcena
When we think about thanksgiving, food preparation comes to mind the most. However, we should consider that it is not just about food, but also on energy, comfort, and boundaries. For autistic and neurodivergent individuals, the holiday can be challenges of sensory overload, unexpected changes, and social fatigue. However, few autism-friendly preparations can be done ahead of time to make the day more enjoyable for everyone.
Here are some steps to make Thanksgiving more autism-friendly:
- Plan ahead and communicate clearly
Surprises can be stressful for autistic individuals, so try to keep things predictable when possible. It helps to let them know who will be there, what will happen, and when. You may also use visuals and checklists to help them prepare for the day. When changes are done, give them notice as soon as you can. A clear plan helps everyone feel more relaxed and ready for celebration.
- Create a quiet and comfortable space
The gathering can get loud due to music, laughter, kitchen noises, and lots of conversation all at once. To help prevent sensory overload, set aside a quiet room where they can take a break whenever needed or bring along comfort items. Let everyone understand that using the space is not about avoiding people, but it is a spot for them to recharge. This can be big help to keep the day balanced.
- Be flexible with food
Food can come in variations – some with strong smells, unfamiliar textures, and those that might not be appealing to others. For autistic individuals who experience sensory sensitivities, mealtime can be tough. Try to offer familiar options alongside traditional dishes. Let them choose what feels safe and respect their preferences even if the differ from the rest. Make them feel comfortable and included.
- Respect social boundaries
Social interactions and small talks are always part of any gatherings, and these may be draining or uncomfortable for some, like autistic individuals. Check in privately if they need a break or time alone. Encourage others to be mindful because some may prefer listening quietly rather than joining every conversation. Also, avoid pushing them to participate in games or group activities if they do not want to. Respecting their boundaries can make them feel cared and this helps to maintain trust.
Thanksgiving celebrations do not need to be like a movie to be meaningful. It is more important to celebrate in a way that makes everyone feel safe and valued. It can also be done through smaller dinner, shorter visits, or a quiet meal at home. These options are valid and can be full of gratitude as any big family feast. We do not need to change the holiday, but we can create an environment where everyone can enjoy it in their own way. Let us all unite to help make the celebration calmer, kinder, and mor inclusive for everyone around the table, with patience, flexibility, and understanding.
Happy Thanksgiving!
